So, in exactly a months time I will be three decades on the planet. Or, in other words, turning thirty. And, the more you live, the more you learn. So, here are thirty things I have learned in my time on the planet.
1. Your family and friends are most important
There is nothing more important than the people in your life, your loved ones. Never take them for granted. Never sacrifice them for anything. Including; love, careers or even living away from them.
2. Animals matter too
Animals matter just as much as humans. They feel pleasure and pain. They feel all the emotions we do. They are consciously aware. And, are intelligent. Humans are not unique or special, all life is special.
3. Change is inevitable
If one thing is certain in life, it is change. Nothing lasts forever in life, whether good or bad. That’s why it is impossible to think of life in terms of absolutes.
4. Love is a choice
Love is not an accident. It is not a feeling. It is a choice. Real love isn’t about fuzzy feelings, it is about how you treat a person, it is about being there for someone, and it is about your actions.
5. Time is your most precious asset
You can waste many things in life, such as money, and get them back. In fact, if you lose any sort of material possession, you can get it back. But, if you wast your time, you will never get it back.
Your time is your most valuable asset. You can’t really waste time, but time can waste you.
6. Apologizing and saying sorry
Don’t be prideful, especially not when it comes to people in your life. If you are wrong, or should apologize, do it. Admit when you are wrong, and make up for it. Losing someone in your life because you can’t apologize or admit you are wrong, is a very heavy price to pay. And, a price which isn’t worth it.
7. Happiness comes from you
No matter what it is, relationships, big events, houses, money, or promotions, none of them will bring lasting happiness.
They will bring a short term boost in happiness. But, they won’t make you happy overall. Happiness is an inside job, it comes from you. If you rely on something else, or someone else, to make you happy, then you’ll always be looking for happiness.
8. No such thing as perfection
There is no such thing as perfection. There is no such thing as a perfect life. Everyone is lacking something in there life. Someone could appear to have everything, but they are not happy.
Chasing to have a perfect life will exhaust you, and prevent you from enjoying life.
9. Romantic love
Romantic love isn’t the only worthy love. Loving your family and friends is just as important.
10. Never sacrifice for love
Someone who truly loves you, will never ask you to sacrifice anything. That is not love, that is control and manipulation.
Just because you are in a relationship with someone, doesn’t mean they have a right to get away with anything and everything. There are lines you should never cross, and they are – giving up other people in your life, moving away from other people in your life that you love, ultimatums, where you go, your independence and your self-worth and self-esteem.
Losing yourself and other people and things in your life to love is the worst thing you could do.
11. Friends are more important than love
You will likely see most, if not all romantic loves come and go. Your friends will be there long after they are gone.
12. You will fail
You will fail in life. Guaranteed. Even the most successful people fail. What matters is choosing to learn from it. And, questioning if you really want it.
In fact, failing can tell us how much we want something. if we really want something, then we won’t give up on it. No matter how many barriers you face.
13. Success should be defined by you
Success should be defined by you, not by anyone else. It should be what you want, not what others want.
Do things because they sing from your heart. Don’t do things because your family, friends or society tell you to. Or expect it of you.
Other people matter, but so do you. Never be with someone in a relationship for your friends and families benefit. Never choose a career based on what your friends and family want. Never make life choices based on peer pressure.
The right people in your life will respect you regardless, and the life you choose.
15. Be who you truly are
Many people try to be other people. Trying to pretend you are someone else is a waste of the person you truly are. And, you deny yourself, others, and the world your unique soul when you pretend to be someone else.
If you pretend to be someone that you are not, does it really matter how successful you appear? No, because it is all a lie. And, you will probably feel unhappy.
16. Heart and soul
Put your heart and soul into everyone and everything in your life. Be passionate about the people and things in your life. Love them. Treasure them. And make the most of them.
17. People will remember how you treated them
When we think of people in our life we remember how they made us feel. That is the thing that we remember most about them.
So, the way you treat people is how they will remember you. Good or bad.
18. Golden Rule
Treat others how you’d like to be treated. Treat them with kindness, respect, love and compassion. The way you treat others says a lot about you as a person.
The way you treat others is also a reflection about the way you treat yourself. And a reflection of how happy you are. Happy people, and confident people don’t be mean to people.
19. Honest and integrity
Have honesty and integrity with yourself and others. Both of these are valuable traits, and essential to being a good and decent person.
Be honest with yourself and others. You can’t have love or respect for someone if you are dishonest with someone. You neither can have integrity.
20. Don’t procrastinate
If you want to do something, then don’t say ‘I will/am going to be/in the future I will…” do it. Do it now. If you want to write a book, start it now. If you want to create a website, start it now. Whatever it is, begin it.
When you procrastinate all that happens is time passes, and you’ve still not done it. Time will pass no matter what. Time will never wait for you.
21. Help others
Don’t be one of those people that is focused on yourself only. Do something for others, animals or people.
Give something to charity. Donate your time to charity.
Making other peoples lives better, or animals lives better, is one of the greatest gifts that you can give in life. We are all like George Bailey, what we do has ripple effects far beyond us. And, that can be for the better or worse. We can affect people’s lives for the better or worse. And, it is our choice what we do.
22. Your life is a choice
Instead of blaming others for your life, or your actions, take some responsibility. We choose where to go in life. We choose how we treat people.
Design you life the way you want it to. Don’t let life just happen to you.
23. Never stop learning
You never stop learning in life. In fact, the more you live, the less you know. No one has all the answers in life.
Even the big answers. No one knows what life is all about. Or, whether there is really a purpose to life. Really, everyone is guessing. Atheists are as in the dark as theists.
24. This life matters
Too many people live life based on an afterlife. It’s an afterlife that might not even exist. What matters is the life that we have now. And putting or all into that.
25. Your actions
Your actions have consequences. Things that you do, or don’t do, come back on you eventually.
It might take years to come back on you. But everything comes back around eventually.
26. Worry, stress, being anxious is pointless
Focusing on these negative emotions is a waste of emotions. It doesn’t change anything, all it does is damage your health. If you are experiencing these emotions, put effort into changing the situation.
27. Social media is a waste of time
Using social media for businesses, websites or blogs can be effective, but using social media for personal use is a massive waste of time.
It wasn’t until earlier this year when I deleted all my social media accounts did I realize just how much time I had wasted on social media. I of course did have an idea that I was wasting too much time on it.
When you free up that time, you can put that time into better use!
28. Don’t be with anyone who asks about…
….how much money you have, what your job is, what material possessions you have. This includes romantic relationships and friends.
These things shouldn’t come up until you have well established relationships. Even then, they should be fleeting conversations. People should be in your life because of who you are, not on what you have! If someone is in your life based on what you have, then run!
29. Never stop learning
Too many people stop learning when they leave formal education, but, you shouldn’t. Keep learning. Read. Watch documentaries. Take online courses, which are free!
There are many benefits to keep on learning. It makes us more knowledgeable. We learn more about the world. And it makes us more interesting.
30. Actions speak louder than words
Words will carry you so fa, but if your words don’t match your actions, then sooner or later people are just not going to trust you. If you promise something, keep the promise. If you say something, mean it.
Actions tell you more than words do. If someone doesn’t match their words with their actions, then you will begin to just not take what they say seriously. Plus, you become known as dishonest, and with a lack of integrity.
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